Why My Daughter Can’t Find a Best Friend

Raising Daughters | Find A Best Friend


Friendship isn’t just about fitting in—it’s about finding the courage to stand out and connect authentically with the people for you. In this episode, Dr. Tim Jordan discusses the many reasons why girls may have a hard time finding a best friend or a group of loyal, close, trustworthy friends. He discussed the ways parents can support their daughters through tough friendship issues. He also shares how to find the balance between parental values and social connections to empower girls to thrive beyond social constraints. Tune in now and learn how you can help your daughter find true friendship.

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Why My Daughter Can’t Find a Best Friend

Welcome back to our discussion about friendships. The title of this episode will be Why My Daughter Can’t Find a Best Friend. The reason I thought we talk about this topic is because I see so many girls in my counseling practice and sometimes in my retreats and summer camps, especially my counseling practice who are discouraged, down, and have some mild depression because they can’t find a best friend or because they don’t have friends. This is going to sound terrible. I’m going to say it anyway. Often, these are cool girls. Not cool in a cool sense, but they’re nice girls. It surprises me. I’m like, “Why would this kid who seems so nice, empathetic, and kind would have a hard time finding friends and/or a best friend?”

I’m going to talk about a handful of reasons why your daughter may be having a hard time finding a group, finding some friends, and, in particular, finding a best friend. It’s so important for all of us all the way through life to have a good friend or a best friend. It’s important when you’re in middle school and high school to have that supportive person who gets you and loves you no matter what. You can say anything to them. You know you can trust them, and you can trust that they’ll keep it in confidence. It’s so important for girls to have that, and so many girls don’t. When girls come to my weekend retreats and my summer camps, they get a little short forum online. There are 3 or 4 questions and one of the questions is, “Anything that you want to learn about or anything that you want different in your friendships?”

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I would say that at least 3 or 4 of the girls will write that they would like better friends. Even girls who have lots and lots of friends who are “popular” want true friends that they can count on. A lot of girls don’t have that because of all the drama and the relationship regression things that go on in the hallways of school. Let’s talk about some of the reasons why maybe your daughter is having a hard time finding that good friend or best friend. I did an episode where I talked about Old Souls, the kind of girls who are very mature. Ever since they were little kids, they always seemed older than their years. They always had an understanding of things that were much older and deeper than you would expect for their age.

I like to call them old souls. There was an episode that I did a long time ago called Why Is My Daughter So Lonely? even if they’re that kind of kid where you would expect them to have lots of friends. What I found is that those kids who are “old souls” and very mature for their age have a hard time finding people, especially in their grades, to match their level of maturity. These are girls who hate drama. They don’t like all the rumors and the gossip. These are the kind of girls who want deeper friendships. They want friends whom they can have deeper conversations with. In our retreats and camps, we say a Whole Foods conversation as opposed to an Aldis conversation.

I’m not judging those stores as being better or worse. They just have a different price level or a different depth if you will. A lot of girls have a hard time finding those deeper friends, especially girls who are old souls. They may have a table to stay with at lunch. They may have people they hang out with, but they don’t have that best friend who can match the level of maturity that they want. I read a book years ago called Smart Girls, Gifted Women. They were talking in this book about very eminent women like Madame Curie, the scientist, Georgia O’Keeffe, the painter, Maya Angelou, the poet, Beverly Sills, the opera singer, Eleanor Roosevelt, and Margaret Mead, women who were out in the world doing these amazing things.

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She was thinking in these women’s thesis, “I wonder why these are such bright girls and they were able to go out in the world and use their skills,” whereas a lot of women in her experience weren’t. She had gone back to her twenty years. I think it was a high school reunion and she had been a college prep high school for girls. She was expecting at the reunion to find senators, astronauts, lawyers, doctors, and whatever. What she found was that most of them were just moms. It’s not my judgment. That was hers. She wants to know, “What was it about these other women that allowed them to go out in the world and use their strengths and skills?”

One of the things that she found that was common to almost all if not all women was when they were in grade school, middle school, and high school, they had a hard time finding good friends. They had a hard time finding like-minded people because they were more mature. A lot of these women, instead of being out at parties and stuff, were spending their time painting, singing, reading, writing, doing lab experiments, and doing whatever their passion was. By the time they graduate from high school, they developed some of those talents and skills. As they got older, late high school and beyond, then they started to find it easier to find people who matched their level or people who matched their passions.

It doesn’t mean that you’re bright mature daughter can’t find a good friend in high school. Sometimes it’s harder for them because of who they are. On the other end of that spectrum are girls who have a hard time finding friends because they’re late bloomers and they’re socially immature. I’ve seen some girls in early middle or late middle school who are still playing with dolls and are still homebodies. When they go to school, they can’t quite match up to the racier and “more mature” kids, so they may have a hard time finding connections because they’re just young. It’s okay that they’re young.

These are the kind of girls who are very kind and innocent. They’re so sweet. Sometimes in the hallways of middle school and high school, they get tramped on. They have a hard time setting boundaries because they think setting boundaries means you’re being mean and aggressive. I’ve seen some of those girls who are young for their age. They may be mature in some ways, but as far as the social stuff, they’re still little kids. Every middle schooler and even high schooler who I worked with in my camps and retreats, even though they may be old and mature in certain ways, when we get them away from their regular life, they can be little kids too. There’s a little kid in all those middle school and high school girls. Some girls live there a lot, so it makes it harder for them to find their connections.

Overprotective Parents

Another reason I find that some girls have a hard time finding a group or best friend is that their parents are very overprotective. Their parents don’t let them go to sleepovers. I’ve seen girls in middle school and beyond whose parents still aren’t letting them go to sleepovers because they’re so afraid of abductions or what’s going on in that other house. I would want you to know something about those parents your daughter might be spending the night with.

I think some parents are so protective that their daughters don’t get out. They don’t let them go to parties. They don’t let them go to events where all their friends are hanging out and getting closer. You can’t get that much closer to your friends at school. There’s not much time to hang out and have those kinds of conversations that you know will make you feel closer. You need time out of school to do that. Some kids aren’t allowed that, so they miss out. Sometimes it also means that they may be the last kid in the world who doesn’t have a cell phone or social media at a “young age.”

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I’ve seen some girls who, in seventh and eighth grade, still don’t have their phones. I’m not saying that’s a bad or a wrong thing. I’m just saying some girls don’t, whereas the vast majority of girls do. These girls tell me they feel behind and left out because they can’t keep up in their minds. They can get around that without a phone, but it’s harder because when girls do it on the weekends and weeknights at home, they’re talking, connecting, making jokes, talking about things, and making plans.

When they miss out on that, sometimes when they’re sitting at the lunch table the next day at school, they’re not even quite sure what everybody is talking about. They’re not in on all the little private jokes because they haven’t been involved in some of those conversations. That’s one reason why some girls feel like they’re having a hard time finding friends. They feel like they’re behind and don’t know what’s going on.

Introvert And Shy

Another reason why some girls have a hard time finding friends is that they’re just quiet kids. They’re shy by nature. They may be introverts. It may be hard for them to include themselves. They have a hard time going up to groups and inviting themselves in. That’s true for a lot of girls forever who have that kind of personality. It has become even more true since COVID and since everybody was shut down socially for a year as far as seeing people going to school. I’ve talked before in this episode that, in general, kids have still not come out of that totally. There’s a level of social awkwardness that girls tell me they still feel, even girls who are as old as the college age.

Some girls are born introverts, quiet, and all. Sometimes they have a hard time finding a best friend because they don’t get noticed as much. They don’t speak up. They’re not the kind of kids who are like the popular kids who are walking down the hallways, being noisy, laughing, punching each other, and all these things. These girls are a little bit more reserved and thus don’t get seen and noticed as much. They don’t raise their hand in class as much, so they and their voices aren’t heard. Sometimes it makes it hard for them to find good friends.

I have, on many occasions, encouraged parents to ask their daughter’s teachers or the school counselor, “Who’s a good match for my daughter? Who would match their level of maturity and their social skills?” Sometimes the school counselor or a teacher can say, “There’s another girl or another boy who’s also quiet. I think they’d be a good match.” You get each other’s information and maybe get the girls together outside of school. They can have a great time and find someone who likes them. Sometimes we can grease their path a little bit by trying to find like-minded kids who are similar to them.

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Find A Best Friend: Sometimes, parents can grease their children’s path a little bit by trying to find like-minded kids who are kind of similar to them.


Past Experience

Another big reason why girls sometimes have a hard time finding a best friend is because they’ve been burned in the past. They’ve had a good friend and then lost a friend because that friend moved on to another group or that girl got bullied, teased, made fun of, or excluded. I’ve had some previous episodes where I’ve talked about my Spiral of Beliefs and what girls make of their situations in life. When life experiences happen, especially adverse ones, girls go inside their heads. They ask, “Why is this happening? Why am I being left out? Why does nobody call me? Why do people leave me?” In their minds or heads, they offer some reasons for themselves or their own private logic.

Oftentimes, what they say to themselves is, “Maybe it’s because I’m not good enough. Maybe I’m not cool enough. Maybe I don’t fit. Maybe I’m too loud. Maybe I’m too quiet. Maybe I’m too awkward. Maybe I’m blank, blank, blank.”. Almost always, it’s negative things that aren’t true, but they’re trying to make sense of it. If their sense of what they make of is “I’m not good and not cool enough. I don’t fit. I’m not attractive enough. I’m too awkward. I’m too quiet,” that always affects when they enter new situations. They will be more reserved. They’ll hold back. They’ll be afraid to speak up because they’re afraid they’re going to say something stupid and then they get teased and made fun of again.

They also may be afraid of losing people again. It’s so painful to lose a friend or a friend group. They don’t want to experience that again. Sometimes they hold back. They’re very cautious. Sometimes, there are good reasons, but sometimes cautious to the point that they don’t include themselves, or they may assume that this group is not going to like them because they’re not cool, they’re awkward, or whatever in their heads. A lot of times, they don’t put themselves out there because they feel like it’s going to happen again or “I don’t want it to happen again.”

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Girls talk about a resting B face, walking through school with a frown on their face like a skull. This is a face that says, “Back off. Don’t get close. I don’t want to talk to you. I don’t want to talk to anybody.” It’s like a shield. It works to keep people at a distance. It works in the sense that if people don’t come up because the energy seems aggressive, angry, or whatever, you do keep people away, and therefore, they won’t hurt you because you don’t let them in. On the other hand, “I want connections. I want friends,” so it doesn’t work. It’s a protection that works at some level but doesn’t get them what they want.

I’ve seen so many girls who have the RBF going through the hallways of school. They need to make a decision like, “If I want some people, I’m going to have to let that guard down. I’m going to have to put myself out there. There’s a risk I’ll get hurt again but also the potential of I will be able to find some friends.” It’s okay to be picky. It’s okay to be cautious, but if you’re going to have a friend, you’re going to need to step out of your comfort zone and try again.

Some girls have a hard time making friends because they may have joined a new school. Sometimes they go from grade school to middle school or middle school to high school, so it’s a new school. If they’re in the same public system, the classes or the grades get bigger because sometimes 2 or 3 middle schools dump into a high school or 2, 3, or 4 grade schools dump into a middle school. Sometimes there are 2 or 3 teams and some middle schools. They may not be on a team where their best friends are. Sometimes they’ll lose their friends because of that. They feel like a new kid or maybe they moved to a brand new district or moved cities because of their family situation. They have to start over.

Some schools are pretty welcoming, but a lot of schools seem like, from the girl’s point of view, they’re not that open to new people. If they’ve been a burden in the past, they assume people are going to be open to them because of all those negative things that they’re thinking about themselves. Some classes are tough to break into. Some classes in middle school and high school are very clicky. By the way, that can start as early as second or third grade in my experience. My wife and I have worked with a lot of schools, working with classrooms of girls, and helping them to create a caring community.

It’s interesting how young some of the classes are that we’re called in to work with. Some schools have us come in proactively because they want to make sure their girls get these skills, learning how to communicate with each other, self-conflicts, and all that. Most of the time, we get called because there’s an issue. It’s been as young as kindergarten and first grade sometimes. More typical in fourth to fifth grade, things are changing. They’re changing. Friendships start to shift, so they need help with learning those skills. Again, some schools are harder to break into than others because some classes and some grades are clicky here at certain schools for lots of different reasons.

Different Interests

Another reason why girls sometimes have a hard time finding a group or a friend is they have different interests. Mostly girls in the class might be “girly girls” who were into boys who are into certain kinds of things whereas they’re into video games, which is more of, in general, a guy thing. Some girls are very athletic and on the playground. They don’t want to walk around the girls, gossip, and do all that stuff. They’d rather play soccer with the boys, which is awesome. They have a blast, except that then the girls get jealous because this girl is becoming friends with some of those boys. They then start teasing her about, “Who’s your boyfriend?” and all that.

Sometimes they start cutting her down because they’re jealous of the fact that she has so many not boyfriends but guy friends. If a girl has different passions and interests that don’t resonate with the girls in her class, sometimes that puts them on the outs. They need to be encouraged to find out what they do have in common. I do an exercise with girls sometimes. We have them pick someone in their class who they don’t know very well, even if it’s a private school where they’ve been in school for 3, 4, 5, or 6 years already. There are certain people they don’t hang with because we’re different. They’ve judged them as being somebody who wouldn’t connect with because, “I’m into sports and they’re not,” or “I’m really into art and theater and they’re not.”

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We have them pair off with someone like that, so they don’t know. Their judges are different and “Probably not somebody I would connect with.” We give them 5 or 10 minutes to come up with all the ways that they are similar. What’s amazing to them, not to me anymore because I’ve done that exercise hundreds and hundreds of times, is they’ll find 5, 10, or more things they have in common. “Maybe I’m in sports and you’re not, but we both like horses. We both like to draw. We both like to travel. We both like rock climbing.” They find so many things, “We both like to cook. We both like whatever.” They realize, “I judged you superficially on this one thing, but we have so many things we could connect on.”

A lot of times, girls don’t know that unless we give them opportunities to do that and bring it to their attention. You need to coach your daughters to look past those surface things that they have judged somebody about this kind of girl and say, “That may be true, but there’s a lot more to her than that. There are lots more layers than just that one thing you see about them. If you spend a little bit of time with them and open up a little bit, you’ll realize, ‘We have more things in common than we thought.’”

I mentioned before these old souls and mature girls. Sometimes it’s just girls who hate drama. Nobody likes it. It does become a way that they connect. It’s a way to be in the know, to be included, and to have a sense of belonging. It’s a negative way to have a sense of belonging. Some girls will stay on the outs from that. What they’ll say to me is that they may have a lunch table they sit with and people don’t exclude them from the lunch table. They can sit there, but the girls are talking about stuff that they don’t want to talk about. They’re gossiping. They’re talking about rumors and things.

They feel like a third wheel. They don’t want to participate in that conversation so they just sit there and listen. They feel like, “I’m not really in this group. I’m in the group but I don’t want to be in the group, but I have nobody else, so at least I have a table to sit at,” but they’re still lonely and they still haven’t found their bestie. I saw a girl in my counseling practice a while back. She came on my weekend retreats. One of the things that she talked about was how she was feeling lonely because she had been in a group since grade school. This girl was in eighth grade.

The group that she had been with for all those years suddenly started to be into boys. They were going to parties. Some of them were making out with boys. A few of them were doing some vaping. They were doing some what she called naughty or racy kinds of things and she wasn’t there. That, in a sense, didn’t resonate or didn’t line up with her morals. She slowly but surely started distancing herself from the group. They might call her to come to somebody’s house for a party on the weekend, but she didn’t want to go because she knew what they’d be doing. Eventually, they started to not ask her anymore. They stopped inviting her because she had said no for so long.

A part of her was okay with that because she didn’t want to be doing what they were doing, but on the other hand, she was alone. She struggled with that decision for a while. She had been struggling with it before she came to our weekend retreat. She got a lot of encouragement to get clear about what she wanted and to take care of herself. After my weekend retreat, she did stop hanging out with that group. The risk and the truth was that she was alone for a while. She was in between groups. It is a hard place to be when you’re in fifth grade, eighth grade, or high school, but she realized that “I’m going to need to do that and then to start looking out beyond that group to who else I might match up with. Who do I want to hang out with?”

Dating Partners

It took a little while to find a friend in a group. She was in limbo for a while, but it was worth it in the long run. Some girls have to go through the process of leaving a group because their morals don’t match the group’s new morals. They don’t want to get into those kinds of behaviors and so they’re out of a group for a while. I’ve also had some girls who have a hard time with friends because of their dating partners. There are two reasons. Sometimes they get so enamored with their new boyfriend, girlfriend, or dating partner that they pour their heart, soul, and all their time and energy into that person. They exclude their friends. They start not having time for their friends. Sometimes their friends get miffed and so they move on. They get upset because, “What about us?” The girls sometimes don’t have that longer-term view of, “I need to have more balance in my life.” Some girls will lose their friends because of that.

Here is the other thing I’ve seen a lot lately. There’s a girl I saw who’s a senior in high school. She dated a guy for about a year and then he broke up with her. One of the reasons he broke up was that she wasn’t willing to do some of the things with him sexually that he wanted. He got frustrated and he moved on, which was heartbreaking for her. They had dated for a year. It was her first real boyfriend. It was tough. What made it even tougher was, within a week, he was dating one of her “best friends,” who always apparently had a crush on him. She started hearing rumors about how she and her ex-boyfriend were having sex, which made her upset like, “I thought I knew this guy.” What’s even worse was the ex-boyfriend and her ex-friend started spreading rumors about her.

The people in that big group that he and her friend were in believed them as opposed to her. She then lost the big group because of rumors and gossip created by an ex. That happens a lot. Some girls have a hard time finding friends for a while because people have made judgments about them because of the gossip in the rumors or because they’ve moved on from a friend or a dating partner, so they may lose not just that friend or the dating partner but they lose the whole group. They get gun-shy. They’re worried about being hurt again for the reasons I mentioned before. Sometimes they have a hard time finding a group again, especially if it’s a class that’s clicky.

Socially Awkward

Here are a couple more reasons why girls may have a hard time finding a best friend. Some girls are socially awkward. Some girls are on the spectrum. They have a hard time with social cues. They have a hard time knowing what to say in a group. There are some kids who, whether they’ve been diagnosed on the spectrum or not, aren’t quick-witted. Sometimes what happens on the playground or in the hallways of school is that if you’re one of those kids who’s funny, quick-witted, and you can go back and forth with people, that’s one way that they connect, but if you’re the kind of person who doesn’t have that quick mind or that humor, sometimes they feel out of it.

They get behind in the conversations because they’re still trying to figure out what was said before and the group is way down the road already. They may lack the ability to notice social cues. They may blurt things out or say things that are not on target, so people start making fun of them or people are like, “Who’s that?” so the group will leave them out. They have a hard time socially because they’re a little bit behind their group. As I mentioned earlier, sometimes it helps if a teacher or a counselor at school can guide the parents to another kid, boy or girl, who also is where they’re at socially, whether they’re on the spectrum or not.

Some kids are just awkward and have a hard time connecting. They’re younger in that way. If they find someone who has an interest that they have who also may be a little bit “immature,” then they have a friend who they can connect with. It can be somebody younger. It could be somebody older. I don’t think it matters that much as long as they have somebody they can connect with, somebody that they can learn to trust, and somebody they can develop those social skills with who is at their level. Some of those kids will never fit in with a “popular” group. Sometimes these are the girls who are pounding on the door of that popular group, and they’re never going to be let in. They just don’t fit. They’re not into the same kinds of things. Those girls are doing things way beyond where they’re at.

They need to find someone who’s at their level. It’s not a bad thing. I’m not judging them. They just need to find someone they can connect with. It’s okay. It might be about a younger age or an interest. Sometimes these are kids who do well working with little kids. I have some of those girls who will go down into a kindergarten class and read to the kids. They work with those kids after school and the after-school care. They get a lot of value from that. They just need to find their matches.

Cultural Differences

One other thing I wanted to mention is this. I was working with a girl not that long ago. She had a hard time socially over the years. She’s now a senior in high school also. It is because her parents are immigrants from another country. They immigrated from India. I’m trying to remember if she was born here or not, but her parents were born in India. They’ve been struggling to handle this US culture, so they’ve been very protective of their daughter. They have a different way of looking at what’s okay and what’s not to the point where one of these families didn’t let her go out to parties and things. She’s a teen now. She’s a senior in high school. They also won’t let her date.

That’s been hard for her because there’s a homecoming dance. There’s a prom coming up. There was a prom last year and her parents won’t let her do things like that. It’s hard for her in some ways to not be able to go out with her friends on a weekend. She has a couple of friends, but her parents only allow her to hang out with them because they’re also from families that are Indian. I’m not taking on the Indian culture, but I’m just saying there are some cultures where they have different kinds of values that don’t match our country’s culture and values. They’re much more reluctant to let their daughters do things socially.

That can cause girls to have a hard time fitting in and deepening their friendships because they just don’t have much time with them outside of school. They won’t let them sometimes go to football games or basketball games where they could hang out and connect. Sometimes I work with those girls and their parents to find a middle ground where they can respect their parents’ values but also be able to have connections outside of school.

Supporting Our Kids

There are lots of reasons why your daughter may have a hard time finding a group or finding a best friend. I just listed some, but there are more than that because I don’t want this episode to be too long. If that’s true, I would have conversations with them. Sometimes it’s about just listening to them and commiserating about how hard it is sometimes in middle school to find a good friend. I would not give advice unless asked. If you have a suggestion to give them about venturing out, getting out of their comfort zone, and watching the resting B face, sometimes we have great comments and wisdom from them.

I always ask permission first. A lot of times when they come to us and they’re upset about friends, what they want is someone to just hear them, get in their shoes, and see it from their point of view. Listen and understand where they’re coming from. Also, to be able to say, “I get it. That stinks. Sorry, you’re going through that.” That’s enough for most girls. They want their parents to understand. If you want to give them some suggestions, I would then say it once they’re done and feel like you got them, you hear it, and you understand.


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I would start by asking permission saying, “I can give a suggestion about that.” If they say half-heartedly, “Yes, okay,” I would say, “I don’t have to. I have some feedback or a suggestion if you like if it’s okay.” If they say, “Sure,” I’d say, “Are you sure?” If they say yes, then I will give it. Otherwise, what girls say is their parents are annoying. Their parents don’t get it. They’re not listening. Just listening is oftentimes what you need to do. Sometimes it is to give them another way of looking at it. Sometimes it’s about role-playing how you enter a group or set a boundary with somebody. Sometimes it’s about maybe calling a teacher or a school counselor to see if you can help grease their path a little bit.

Sometimes it’s about asking if there’s someone in their classroom they’d like to be a friend with and maybe finding a common interest that they had with that friend. Maybe they could take a painting class together. Maybe they could both be in the fall play or a theater play. Maybe they could join the same soccer team. You could find ways where they could be with someone that they have an interest in becoming a friend with and find some time with them outside of school. In school too but also oftentimes, out of school is where they will be able to make their friend and deepen the friendship.

I also want to remind them and let them know to look at the book Smart Girls, Gifted Women with them. That book has biographies about 30 very eminent women. The author was Barbara Kerr. There are 2 or 3 pages for each of those women’s short biographies. When my daughter was in middle school, I copied those from the book and put them on her bed. I said, “You might be interested in these stories.”It was because my daughter was having a hard time. She was one of those very sweet kind people who was having a hard time with all the drama and stuff.

Sometimes reading those stories gives them some hope that, “Maybe I just need to look beyond my group in the popular kids. There’s hope that I will be able to find people who match my level of depth and maturity at some point. If not now, at some point.” Stories are great to give girls perspective and to know that they’re not the only ones who are or have gone through that. I also recommend some things like my retreats and summer camps. We sit in a circle with these girls. Also, our Strong Girls, Strong World school program. You sit in a circle at a retreat or a summer camp. When the girls start to share their struggles with friends, then somebody else shares, and somebody else shares, all of a sudden, everybody is talking, listening, and sometimes crying.

What they realize the biggest gift of circle time like that is “I’m not the only one. I thought it was just me. Maybe it’s not just me. There are cool girls in this circle. They’re experiencing some of the same things, so maybe I’m okay. Maybe it’s not about me. I’ve been making it about me and wondering if I’m not good enough, cool, don’t fit, and all that, but maybe it’s not about me.” Even better, “It’s not about me. I’m no longer willing to make that my story.”

It’s so valuable. That’s such a gift for them to understand that they’re not the only ones. Other people share their experiences. It’s very common. Also, to then learn skills about taking care of yourself, setting boundaries, and not letting words and rumors bother you, etc. Find experiences like that. Some of you live in Australia and some of you live all over the United States. We have girls come from all over the country who come to our retreats and camps. Find something like that where they have a circle that they can sit with so they know they’re not the only ones.

Visit my website www.DrTimJordan.com. I’ve done topics about how you get around those old limiting beliefs and the old soul one. It would be helpful to go back and review those. I go into detail about those particular topics. Pass this one on to anybody you know who has a daughter who’s struggling with friends, which is probably almost every one of you who is tuning in to this.

When you go through grade school or musical high school as a girl, there’s almost always 99% of the time where there are going to be times when they’re on the outs with their friends or they’re in between friends or experiencing the drama. It’s tough on girls. Pass this on to people you think would be valuable for them. As always, I’ll be back here with another new episode. Thank you so much for dropping by and I’ll see you back here.


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