A 10 is a 10 is a 10: Understanding Girl’s Emotional Roller Coaster

Show Notes:

Dr. Jordan’s 10 is a 10 is a 10 principal helps kids share their feelings in order to be understood & to relate to the stories & emotions of parents and peers

Girls need safe spaces to express their feelings

Girls need safe spaces to express all of their feelings, especially during the roller coaster of emotions during the teens years

Dr. Jordan shares stories from his retreats and camps of the different kinds of losses girls experience

A 10 is a 10 is a 10 Principal

A 10 is a 10 is a 10 principal: a loss is a loss, the experience and details may differ, but the emotions don’t feel any less real = a 10 is a 10 is a 10, we can relate to each other even if our stories aren’t the same

The value of pets

A loss of a pet can create similar feelings to other seemingly more important losses; a pet is always there for you, can share stories and fears and they listen without judgment, pets become a safe haven for girls

Listen to and validate their emotions

When kids come to you with their feelings, take them seriously, listen, mirror, get in their shoes and see from their point of view, affirm feelings, ask if they want feedback, help them see it in a different perspective, encourage them to journal, draw, etc. to express & make sense of emotions & loss; never belittle, minimize, judge them as being dramatic or too sensitive

I am not alone

Girls at camp realize they are not the only ones who have experienced what they have, they are not alone or crazy, peers can relate even if their stories are different

A 10 is a 10 is a 10; remember this principle so kids feel safe to share with you

Contact Dr. Jordan: www.drtimjordan.com

Email feedback to drtimjordanmedia@gmail.com

If you would like more information on understanding and dealing with your daughter’s emotional life, check out Dr. Jordan’s online course, Parenting girls: The challenges girls face today with their feelings and friends and what they need

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