Show Notes:
Teach your daughter how to be aware of & trust her gut alarms & what blunts them, set firm boundaries, create criteria for sexuality before dating, & how to find non-sexual ways to experience intimacy.
In a fictional letter to his daughter, a dad imparts some wisdom to help her take care of herself on prom night. This advice includes:
Cultural myths about prom night
Don’t buy into the cultural myth that prom is a coming-of-age party where it’s expected that you get wasted and have sex. Make your own decisions.
Non-sexual ways to experience intimacy
How to find non-sexual ways to experience intimacy.
Become aware of & trust your intuition
How to become aware of and trust your internal alarms, i.e., your gut intuition.
Things that blunt your internal alarms
Become aware of what might blunt your alarm: alcohol and drugs, desperately needing a boyfriend or wanting him to like you, worrying that you’re being lame, allowing self-doubts to confuse you, or low self-esteem.
How to set clear, firm boundaries
How to set clear, firm boundaries
Develop YOUR criteria for sexuality
The importance of making a list of your criteria for a dating relationship, including sexual behavior. Creating your own standards while quiet and clear-headed is a much better proposition than trying to make good decisions in the heat of the moment.
I love you but what’s more important than that is, do YOU love you? You will take care of yourself in direct proportion to what you feel you deserve.
For some more wisdom that girls need to navigate their adolescence, read Dr. Jordan’s book, Letters From My Grandfather: Timeless Wisdom For a Life Worth Living
