The Science of Dating and Love

Learn the evolutionary, brain, and hormonal reasons behind dating and falling in love so that you can better understand & support your daughter’s relationships

Show Notes:

Evolutionary basis for love

Evolution:  Romantic love evolved to enable you to focus your mating energy on just one individual at a time, and to reproduce and pass on your genes. Attachment evolved to get you to stick with this person at least long enough to raise a single child together.

The Stages of Courtship

Learn the stages of courtship: attention-getting, recognition, grooming talk, touching, and body synchronicity

The brain Chemistry behind falling in love

Dr. Jordan describes the brain chemistry of falling in love, which underlies these stages of courting: romantic phase, attraction phase, attachment phase, and the honeymoon phase. Each phase is driven by different chemicals including testosterone, dopamine, norepinephrine, serotonin, and oxytocin. Learn how these chemicals create bonding, stress, euphoria, and seeking and craving feelings similar to addictions. Dr. Jordan also discusses what happens chemically when we go thru a breakup, and how that affects girl’s emotions and behaviors.

Listen to this podcast with your daughter

Listen to this podcast with your daughter and help her become aware of why she acts and feels the way she does as far as dating and romantic partners. Girls in my retreats and camps love my discussions on this subject, because no one has ever helped them understand their intense feelings and drives; “It makes sense!”

Talking about this will activate her prefrontal cortex to help her reason thru decisions about her relationship; it’s important not to make decisions strictly emotionally.

A good read on this topic is, The Anatomy of Love by Helen Fisher

Check out all of the resources provided by Dr. Jordan at his site,

Happy Valentine’s Day!


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