5 crucial tools women need to stop sexual harassment

So much of the focus in the media lately has been on the impropriety of eminent men sexually harassing women, with no attention to teaching teenagers the tools of prevention. I’m focusing this blog on five things girls need to take care of themselves with full knowledge that boys have just as much or more to learn in this regard. Listen to my upcoming blog on how to educate boys about sexual … [Read more...]

Raising girl’s self-esteem and grit: Un-Words critical for girls to embrace

There are some crucial qualities girls need to develop self-esteem and grit. I described four of these in a previous blog, and today I am adding four more “un-words” to the list. Unaffected: The happiest girls I know are the ones who don’t care what other people think about them. They don’t give their power away by allowing disrespectful words or gossip to hurt their feelings, and they make … [Read more...]

Depression in adolescent girl “caretakers”

One of the major causes of depression in adolescent girls is their failure to take care of themselves. There are many reasons for this occurring, and the following are stories of real girls who have suffered because of their role as "caretaker". I have changed their names for anonymity. Izzy’s older sister has been causing chaos in the family for years, including drug and alcohol usage, … [Read more...]

Burned out youth athletes: it’s time to abolish college athletic scholarships

It’s time to abolish college sports and thus scholarships for athletes, and return the focus on campus to education. More importantly, this might have a trickle-down effect to lessen the pressure of youth sports. The $10.6 billion-dollar revenue of NCAA sports is matched today by a youth sports economy that brings in about $15.3 billion, a 55% increase since 2010. Like college sports, youth sports … [Read more...]

Best antidote to bullying: 86,400 reasons to not sweat the small stuff

The lesson of the following story applies so well to the girls that I work with and the issue of bullying. You have $86,400 in your account and someone stole $10 from you; would you be so upset with them that you’d be willing to throw all of the $86,400 away in hopes of getting back at the person who took your $10? Or move on and live? Right, you’d move on and live. See, we have 86,400 seconds … [Read more...]

Sexual harassment begins in the hallways of middle school

The Harvey Weinstein saga might hopefully shine a light on a problem much closer to home: the issue of teen girls being sexually harassed at school. Adolescent girls get groped primarily in the hallways and classrooms at school, but girls also experience guys grinding on them on the dance floor at mixers and any place where they are not supervised. Sexual harassment is so common that many girls I … [Read more...]

Attention parents! 5 key phrases for raising amazing children

I don’t subscribe to formulas for raising children, but I want to share 5 key phrases that should be present in every parent’s tool box. These idioms will help you raise kids who have self-motivation, self-efficacy, critical thinking and problem-solving skills, and who feel loved, supported, and understood. So here goes. “What will you do?” Second grader Sophia was upset because her teacher … [Read more...]

Are soldiers and 1st responders our finest heroes? Perhaps not

The recent controversial kneel-downs by athletes at professional sporting events during the national anthem typically ends up in a discussion about respecting the flag and the heroes who have died fighting for it. Often athletes and first responders are thrown into the mix of heroes we should be honoring. But what about the women and men who wield pens, books, whistles, scalpels, and listening … [Read more...]

Worst parents ever! The 7 habits of highly unsuccessful parents

One thing I find that all parents have in common is the fear that they are THE worst parents on the block. They worry they are becoming the worst version of their own parents. Perhaps worst of all is their anxiety that everyone is watching and judging them, and everyone agrees that you are doing a crappy job. So I thought I’d lay out 7 of the worst habits of highly unsuccessful parents I have met … [Read more...]

Homework, chores, routines: Top 4 tips on how to not mess up the school year

The 1st day of school is upon us once again, bursting with tears from kids and whoops of joy from parents. Parents and kids will be faced with the daunting task of addressing agreements about school year routines including  homework, chores, and schedules. The following are my top four ways to get the year off on the right foot. Family meetings: Have a family meeting to decide together, as a … [Read more...]