Burned out youth athletes: it’s time to abolish college athletic scholarships

It’s time to abolish college sports and thus scholarships for athletes, and return the focus on campus to education. More importantly, this might have a trickle-down effect to lessen the pressure of youth sports. The $10.6 billion-dollar revenue of NCAA sports is matched today by a youth sports economy that brings in about $15.3 billion, a 55% increase since 2010. Like college sports, youth sports … [Read more...]

Best antidote to bullying: 86,400 reasons to not sweat the small stuff

The lesson of the following story applies so well to the girls that I work with and the issue of bullying. You have $86,400 in your account and someone stole $10 from you; would you be so upset with them that you’d be willing to throw all of the $86,400 away in hopes of getting back at the person who took your $10? Or move on and live? Right, you’d move on and live. See, we have 86,400 seconds … [Read more...]

Attention parents! 5 key phrases for raising amazing children

I don’t subscribe to formulas for raising children, but I want to share 5 key phrases that should be present in every parent’s tool box. These idioms will help you raise kids who have self-motivation, self-efficacy, critical thinking and problem-solving skills, and who feel loved, supported, and understood. So here goes. “What will you do?” Second grader Sophia was upset because her teacher … [Read more...]

Are soldiers and 1st responders our finest heroes? Perhaps not

The recent controversial kneel-downs by athletes at professional sporting events during the national anthem typically ends up in a discussion about respecting the flag and the heroes who have died fighting for it. Often athletes and first responders are thrown into the mix of heroes we should be honoring. But what about the women and men who wield pens, books, whistles, scalpels, and listening … [Read more...]

Is it time to do away with homework?

Every kid complains of excessive homework, but these days many parents have joined the chorus of “More may not be better”. We’ve all become slaves to the prevailing notion that the primary focus of childhood should be getting top grades, taking AP classes, and building your college résumé while ignoring skills like social-emotional intelligence, critical thinking, and the arts. Grade school has … [Read more...]

Worst parents ever! The 7 habits of highly unsuccessful parents

One thing I find that all parents have in common is the fear that they are THE worst parents on the block. They worry they are becoming the worst version of their own parents. Perhaps worst of all is their anxiety that everyone is watching and judging them, and everyone agrees that you are doing a crappy job. So I thought I’d lay out 7 of the worst habits of highly unsuccessful parents I have met … [Read more...]

Homework, chores, routines: Top 4 tips on how to not mess up the school year

The 1st day of school is upon us once again, bursting with tears from kids and whoops of joy from parents. Parents and kids will be faced with the daunting task of addressing agreements about school year routines including  homework, chores, and schedules. The following are my top four ways to get the year off on the right foot. Family meetings: Have a family meeting to decide together, as a … [Read more...]

Depression? Suicidal thoughts? Best tool for girls is to savor the moment

One of the best tools I have found to counter depression and anxiety in girls is for them to “savor each moment”. Teens today are scurrying around busy and distracted, and often don’t spend time taking in the good things surrounding them. People with depression often focus on the negatives and what they don’t have vs. what they do possess. Learning to savor the moment is the perfect antidote to … [Read more...]

Sitting alone at lunch: the saddest girls I know

The saddest girls I know are worried every morning before they go to school. Will anybody greet me at my locker? Will anyone pick me for the project? Most importantly, will I have anyone to sit with at lunch? It breaks my heart to hear girls talk about sitting alone at lunch each day. Ellie, 17, finally stood up to the Queen Bee in her friend group, resulting in the whole group ditching her. … [Read more...]

8 reasons to not worry about 13 Reasons Why

When it comes to TV shows like 13 Reasons Why, don’t be afraid and reactive; be present and proactive. Working with girls for over 30 years and having read a lot of history books has given me a different perspective than most people when it comes to teen issues like sexuality, grades, or the latest hot topic to arouse angst; in this case, the TV series 13 Reasons Why. For those of you who … [Read more...]