5 Ways We Are Sucking the Soul Out of Children

Show Notes:

The following are 5 ways we are sucking the heart and soul out of our children’s lives and with great cost:

Down time for self-directed play

  1. Lack of down time for unsupervised, self-directed play: kids need the freedom to explore and take things apart and play with ideas. This also requires enough down time for kids to be bored, daydream and really get into the flow of their creative processes.

Value the arts

2. We don’t value the arts: We need to give artists, dancers, musicians, budding actors, and teachers the same amount of financial and emotional support as you give kids in sports

Love of learning

3. Kids have lost their love of learning: Kids learn to just play the ‘game of school’ and give adults what they want, but they lose their motivation and love of learning in the process.

Focus on intrinsic motivators

4. There is too much focus on external motivators: Teens and adults who are driven by internals like being of service and making a difference are happier, more fulfilled, and have richer relationships. Be very careful with what you focus on.

Play for The love of the game

5. Kids have lost the joy of playing sports for the love of the game: Too much emphasis on competition, winning, and achieving college scholarships has drained the love of the game out of youth sports.

What kids need:

Down time for Self-directed play

  1. More unsupervised down time for kids to follow their own interests and passions & learn thru play

2. Put as much value and encouragement into activities your kids are into like art, music, theater; let go of the fear they’ll never make $ doing it.

3. Parents & the educational system let go of pressuring kids to all achieve straight A’s and to pad their resumes & do activities b/c it looks good on their college app; teach in a way that kids see the meaning in what they are studying; allow time for kids to pursue their own interests for the love of learning; autonomy, engagement, mastery

4. Playing for plays sake: focus on playing for the love of the game vs. winning or getting a college scholarship


Listen to a previous podcast by Dr. Jordan on How youth sports are negatively affecting our daughters  

A Whole New Mind by Daniel Pink

Out of Our Minds: learning to be creative, by Ken Robinson

The High Price of Materialism (http://www.amazon.com/The-High-Price-Materialism-Kasser by Tim Kasser


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