The Truth About Sexting and Online Postings

You are not doing an adequate job of educating your kids and teens about online ethics, civility, dangers, and integrity. Let’s stopPodcast About Raising Daughters blaming Ask.fm,Facebook, Instagram, and cell phones for cyberbullying and sexting, and instead raise the bar on on what we as parents should be doing. One huge responsibility is to give kids perspective about the effects of technology on them and other people.

I want to share with you 2 ways I frame sexting and cyberbullying for kids I talk to at my retreats and camps. See if it doesn’t make it easier to explain why these activities can be harmful and inappropriate.

1) Cyberbullying: No matter what you put online on any sites, or on your phones or other devices, think about it this way. Write down everything you have posted in the past week onto a large poster board, decorate it, and then place it in every mall in your town so that every person walking into the mall can see and read it. Would you be okay doing that? Is what you have posted appropriate enough for anyone to read? Would any of your friends who read it  be upset about what you wrote? The truth is that what you post online has the power to be read by anyone and everyone, so you had better be really careful about what you post.sexting

2)Sexting: Let me put it this way girls: If you are tempted to send a guy a naked    or revealing picture of yourself because you want him to like you or because you want to know if he thinks you are attractive and hot, think about this first. Would you be okay calling this guy and having him come over to your house, and then strip down in front of him to see if he thinks you are sexy? Or better yet, would you be okay if he called all of his friends to come over to help him make his decision? I would think not. And yet, that is exactly what you are doing if you’re sexting, plain and simple.

This is one of many areas where kids need adult wisdom, experience, and guidance. Just because your kids are whizzes on the computer doesn’t mean they have the maturity and impulse control to handle these technologies.

Parents: stop blaming and do your part!

Comments

  1. Dr. Tim! WAY TO GO ! This was clear and to the point! Great job. I will share your profound words in our network.
    Sometimes it feels too difficult for many parents to begin this necessary dialogue with their kids. Too bad, guys! You’ve gotta do it! Be the guiding parent you intended to be when you held that little newborn in your arms. No wimping out!!!
    Thanks, again, Tim.

  2. A friend of mine once said that due to technology kids these days have 3 parents: mom, dad and society. Oye.

    • Yeah, it used to be just mom and dad and relatives, then we added television, and now a plethora of technologies. Its hard to keep abreast much less ahead, but as Kathleen says below, we still have to do it! Thanx for reading and commenting, let your friends know about my blog. Tim

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  4. Hey Dr. Tim, way to just bring it right home! The age of electronic devices and instant communication is certainly not going to go away. And parents certainly need to be involved with what is going on with their kids and to be a positive example – this might be the challenge. One thing that has changed since I was a kid was that of having at least one parent at home. It is the norm now for both parents to work in order to make ends meet. Resulting in less time for parenting. I have worked in industry and watched employees work all the overtime they could in order to earn more money, but having way less time at home. Our children need our influence in their lives but that needed time has been reduced dramatically over the past several decades. I encourage parents to focus on spending as much time as possible really listening to their children, without distractions or interruptions. Who knows, a relationship just might develop.

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