Dare to be a parent and just say no!

I’m saddened that so many parents need permission to set boundaries and advocate for their children. There is a higher level of insecurity permeating parents today than in previous generations. On the one hand we have helicopter parents whose anxiety pushes them to micromanage and overprotect their kids, with adverse effects. On the other hand there are parents who are reluctant to advocate for … [Read more...]

Dear daughter: A father’s advice concerning prom night, boys, and boundaries

Dear daughter, First of all know that I love you and want the very best for you. I realize you are no longer a little kid, but in my heart you will always be daddy’s little girl. That said, prom night is approaching, and my dad-alarms are going off like crazy, worrying about if you know how to trust your intuition and set good boundaries with boys. So instead of being stuck in fear, I am … [Read more...]

Stressed about finding your calling? Just make dots!

Here’s a new thought: you don’t need to have your whole life figured out by your 20’s. Seems pretty obvious to me, but not so to most young adults these days. People are absorbing this life urgency from parents, teachers, schools, and the culture. Young people also seem to believe that adults started at point A at age 18 and went directly to point Z where they are as 50 year old adults, even … [Read more...]

Why girls need to care

“What movie do you want to see tonight?” “Where do you want to go eat?” The automatic, knee-jerk response from most teen girls to such inquiries is, “I don’t care, whatever you want.” The long-term consequence of not stating their needs and desires is that they often don’t get what they want, and resentment ensues. Little by little, girls give up their power to others. There is an … [Read more...]