Turbo-charge your daughter’s flight by stepping aside

Want to turbo-charge your daughter's flight as she launches into the life she is meant to live? You might need to step aside. The egg of an eagle somehow found it’s way into a chicken coop, where a hen was hatching her eggs. So the little eaglet was hatched right along with the other chicks. As time passed, the young eagle began experiencing a longing to fly, so she kept asking her mother, … [Read more...]

Best parenting tips for 2017: Just don’t suck at it!

Kids are under a lot of pressure to be perfect these days, and the same unrealistic standard applies for parents. Advice comes in many forms and from all sides: grandparents, teachers, friends, coaches, blogs, articles, podcasts, and the Internet. Moms and dads often feel overwhelmed, and at the end of most days, like failures. My best parenting tip for 2017: “Just don’t suck at it!” The … [Read more...]

4 Presents for Your High School Graduate

High school graduation is just around the corner, but it’s not too late to start gifting your daughter with skills she will need to successfully launch out into the world. Here are four crucial ways to parent proactively for the long-term. 1. Space: As girls enter their junior and senior years of high school, they need more unsupervised time and space to make their own decisions, take care … [Read more...]

Unleashing Your Children

I asked Ashlyn, 18, what her plans were after she graduates high school next spring. At first, she looked at me like I had 2 heads, and then responded, “Well, college, of course.” I questioned her why she would do that, and she replied that she wanted to get a degree so that she could obtain a good job and make good money. But she said this with a touch of sadness in her voice, so I pushed her … [Read more...]

Engagement-Disengagement: The Art of Letting Go

If you hold an infant in your arms and gaze quietly into their eyes, they will reciprocate by looking back. And then the beautiful dance begins, where the baby takes the lead as much as the parent in drawing each other into the interaction. If the baby looks away, then a parent who is sensitive to the child's needs will avert their gaze until the baby is ready once again to engage. This intricate … [Read more...]

Forever Reachable???

Charlotte, 17, is supposed to touch base with her parents every hour when she is out with her friends.  Becca's parents put a GPS-type chip in her phone so they can track her whereabouts all night long.  Morgan has been texting her parents 5-10 times a day already at college.  What in the heck is going on? When kids get their first cell phone, there is an unspoken agreement that they will from … [Read more...]