Feeling hurried and over overscheduled? It’s time to begin with the end in mind

Perhaps the biggest mistake parents make is not taking the time up front to follow the prescription of Stephen Covey: begin with the end in mind. Families jump headlong into decisions about sports and other activities without first taking time to clarify their values: what is really important to us as a family? Too often the result is kids who are overscheduled and families who are rushed with no … [Read more...]

Why an overemphasis on grades kills motivation for students

We need to get over our obsession with straight A’s and focus on more important endeavors. More than 35 years of scientific investigation suggests that an overemphasis on intellect or talent leaves people vulnerable to failure, fearful of challenges and unwilling to remedy their shortcomings. In my experience, an overemphasis on grades produces similar results along with unnecessary stress and a … [Read more...]

Does it matter where you go to college? You might be surprised

The prevailing mantra being played out by many teens these days is, “Attend a top tier university or bust”. The perception is that where you go to college is the most important determinant for your future success. Charlotte, 18, recently told me that she’d consider it a failure if she weren’t admitted into her top choice, Yale. A whole cottage industry of college prep has sprung up around this … [Read more...]

Where Did You Go To High School? HUMBUG!!!

It is an annual St. Louis tradition to ask people where they went to high school, because we all have HUGE judgments about each school and what it means about the people who went there. As if that is not bad enough, we are still putting our kids through the wringer this time every fall with the whole application process of trying to get our beloveds into the exact right school. I think it is, … [Read more...]