I hate my body! When and why body image dissatisfaction begins

Body image concerns for girls don’t typically start appearing in high school; it’s often grade school when the angst begins. It can begin with an offhand comment from a friend or parent, and almost always involves girls looking outside of themselves for their sense of worth. The cost is tremendous anxiety, self-hatred, and discontent. Let me share some stories of real girls whose names I have … [Read more...]

The news that shocked dads of middle school girls

27 fathers and their middle school aged daughters met for a three-day retreat recently, and the dads left shocked at their “little girl’s” revelations. They had no idea of the magnitude of the pressures the girls were facing, especially when it came to body image. Here is what the girls shared with their dads. First notice how many different pressures the girls said they were facing: getting … [Read more...]

Teen Journey for Girls

Dr. Tim and our amazing staff lead a weekend retreat just for high school girls (9th - 12th). Go to Campweloki.com for more information.   … [Read more...]

Girls and Body Image

I had a group of high school girls and boys at my camp last week draw pictures of the ideal woman at the age of 21 years.  I separated the boys and girls for the drawings, and then had each group share their work with the other.  The results should be a wake-up call to anyone who loves kids. I asked them to describe this woman based on what they had been seeing, hearing, and experiencing  from … [Read more...]

Girls and the Media

Two stories that have received a lot of attention lately have caused me to have more hope for our young girls. I'm speaking of Mike Jeffries, owner of Abercrombie and Fitch, and his comments about fat people not being welcome in his stores, as well as the outcry over the ways the Disney Company changed the lead character from the movie Brave, Merida, when they added her to their princess line of … [Read more...]


I was struck with something the actress Leslie Mann said in an interview in the December 21, 2013 issue of Entertainment Weekly. Here is a quote from the article: "When I was little, my family said, 'you know, when kids aren't attractive, sometimes they grow up to be attractive, she says.' But I don't see myself as pretty. My face is weird and long. I do weird things with my mouth and I have a … [Read more...]