Why men like big booties: it’s not what you think

Believe it or not, scientists have found that men around the world are particularly attracted to women with a back that curves exactly 45 degrees above the top of her buttocks. The researcher also found the structure of the spine itself, rather than just the backsides’ fat and muscle, is the attraction. So men who think they like big bottoms may actually be more into spines than booties. Before … [Read more...]

8 reasons to not worry about 13 Reasons Why

When it comes to TV shows like 13 Reasons Why, don’t be afraid and reactive; be present and proactive. Working with girls for over 30 years and having read a lot of history books has given me a different perspective than most people when it comes to teen issues like sexuality, grades, or the latest hot topic to arouse angst; in this case, the TV series 13 Reasons Why. For those of you who … [Read more...]

Put your smartphone away! Lonely kids crave real conversation

Despite our continual digital connections to everyone and everything, people today feel more lonely and less supported than 30 years ago. I was reminded of this fact recently as I observed a family at a restaurant. Mom, dad, and three brothers ages approximately 10, 7, and 4 were all bent over their devices, tapping away. The parents were on their smartphones, while the boys played video games on … [Read more...]

Are you a prisoner of your phone?

After spending 2 of the last 3 weeks at our camp, I’m reminded of the benefits of unplugging from cell phones and social media, and especially for adolescent girls. Many girls truly are prisoners of their devices, tethered to them 24/7 with the incessant noise and information that buzzes from them. When they hand over their phones at our check-in table, many girls are a little jittery, not certain … [Read more...]

What is bringing down girl’s self-esteem? Defining themselves by numbers

Too often girls choose to define themselves based on numbers, resulting in ever-present anxiety, self-hatred, and discontent. These digits come in many forms, including how you look and how you perform. The culprits causing this phenomenon are numerous as well. I hope this article awakens you to the impact this numbers game has on our daughters. Where does this story begin? When it comes to … [Read more...]

THE best remedy for girl’s obsession with their weight

Bonnie, 7, looked at a photo of herself and her older sister and stated, “Abby is so pretty, and I’m so fat and ugly.” It floored her mother, who had tried so hard to be sensitive when it came to talk about bodies, appearance, and weight. The origin of Bonnie’s worries was found in a comment made in kindergarten by one of the popular girls who told her in front of a group of peers that she was … [Read more...]

“I hate my body!”

Do you want to hear some of the horrifying thoughts running through the heads of adolescent girl’s about their bodies? I heard these recently at one of my camps for high school girls. It makes me sad knowing what girls are facing these days, and too often without guidance and support. The following are just a few of the statements as expressed by these teens. “I’m fat; I wish I was skinnier; I … [Read more...]

Best diet for adolescent girls

Seven in ten girls believe they are not good enough or don’t measure up in some way, including their looks, performance in school, and relationships with friends. And a girl’s self-esteem is more strongly related to how she views her own body shape and weight than how much she actually weighs. 42% of first, second, and third grade girls want to lose weight, and close to 50% of nine-eleven year … [Read more...]

Dress Code Policies: An Opportunity For Learning

Should girls be prohibited from wearing outfits to school because they are deemed distracting for the boys? Wow! What a loaded issue. While treading gingerly on this issue, I would like to put a few ideas out there for discussion because it’s only through open, nonjudgmental dialogue that we will get to win-win solutions. I certainly don’t subscribe to the “boys will be boys” mentality that … [Read more...]

Amazing Grace

Grace, 14, is a straight A student, a star on her select basketball team, and tries desperately hard to be perfect in everything that she does. And, in her words, it’s not enough to be perfect; “I feel every day like I have to be amazing!” That’s obviously an impossible benchmark to live up to, but Grace continually strives to reach it each and every day. Much of her stress comes from comparing … [Read more...]