Best antidote to bullying: 86,400 reasons to not sweat the small stuff

The lesson of the following story applies so well to the girls that I work with and the issue of bullying. You have $86,400 in your account and someone stole $10 from you; would you be so upset with them that you’d be willing to throw all of the $86,400 away in hopes of getting back at the person who took your $10? Or move on and live? Right, you’d move on and live. See, we have 86,400 seconds … [Read more...]

Best remedy for painful relationships: believe in yourself!

The most common reason girls don’t take care of themselves in both friendship and dating relationships is the negative beliefs about themselves they have acquired from past painful experiences. What you believe about you will drive your thinking, words, and behaviors, and if not reversed, will limit your potential. The reason behind most adult’s unhappy marriages and unfulfilling lives almost … [Read more...]

Why amazing girls feel lonely

Some of the most mature, socially-emotionally intelligent tween and adolescent girls I know feel lonely and out of the loop with peers. It used to shock me, but no longer. Their stories have revealed the truth behind their disconnection. Madeleine, 15, was ditched by her group of friends in 7th grade after they chose to hang out with the more popular group at school. She didn’t like the way … [Read more...]

Teen Journey for Girls

Dr. Tim and our amazing staff lead a weekend retreat just for high school girls (9th - 12th). Go to for more information.   … [Read more...]

What Buddha Can Teach Us About Reacting To Racial Slurs?

Can we all please grow up past the sandbox stage and stop both the name-calling and the over-reactions to words? Please? Marcus Smart, a college basketball player, recently brought this issue to the forefront once again. A man court-side heckled him during a game, called him a name, maybe even yelled out a racial slur by using the word nigger, and he took offense and got into a shoving match … [Read more...]

What To Do With The N-Word???

Booker T. Washington struggled against deep-seated prejudice to establish his Tuskegee Institute in Alabama. One day, as he passed the mansion of a wealthy women to whom he was just another black, he heard her call out, "Come here, boy, I need some wood chopped." Without a word, Washington peeled off his jacket, picked up the ax and went to work, not only cutting a pile of wood but carrying it … [Read more...]

Middle Schoolers and Instagram Don’t Mix

There was another new story recently about someone at a local middle school misusing a social networking site to bully fellow students, this time Instagram. Which begs the question, at least for me: why are middle school aged kids  allowed on such sites in the 1st place? I work with kids this age a lot; in my counseling practice, and also especially in my retreats and camps for middle school … [Read more...]