Stop the race to nowhere and enjoy the ride!

Life truly has become a race to nowhere. A group of tourists were on a bus traveling through gorgeous Tuscany countryside, but an odd thing occurred. The shades on the windows were all pulled down such that no one could see what was beyond the windows. They spent the entire trip squabbling about who got to sit in the front row, who got to sit by the window, and who was to be applauded. And so … [Read more...]

Feeling hurried and over overscheduled? It’s time to begin with the end in mind

Perhaps the biggest mistake parents make is not taking the time up front to follow the prescription of Stephen Covey: begin with the end in mind. Families jump headlong into decisions about sports and other activities without first taking time to clarify their values: what is really important to us as a family? Too often the result is kids who are overscheduled and families who are rushed with no … [Read more...]

Things Your Kids Won’t Tell You

My parents are setting me up to fail in college!  The best predictors for success in college are having high levels of grit, hope, optimism, and self-efficacy.  Too many parents rescue their kids, solve their problems, and take responsibility for their boredom, happiness, and motivation, leaving them weak and unable to handle the normal ups and downs of life.  Qualities like grit, optimism, and … [Read more...]

Are Teachers Harder On Girls?

The old logic held that teachers were harder on boys and that boys got into trouble a lot more than girls. I ran a weekend retreat recently for middle school girls and they had a different perspective on this issue. These girls felt like teachers were much harder on the girls because they had much higher expectations for girls academically. Girls saw evidence each day that boys were less … [Read more...]

Pearls Before Swine Comic Strip

I have asked the following sequence of questions to over a hundred groups of people, and by people I mean teenagers, parents, and teachers. And their answers are always the same: Q: Why do you want your child to get into a good preschool? A: So they can get into a good grade school. Q: Why do you want your kids to get good grades ie "A's" in grade school? A: So they can get into a good high … [Read more...]