I Do? Apparently Not For Many Young Women

I wonder if it's possible to plan out how, when, and where you will meet up with your soulmate, assuming that there is at least one person out there with whom you are destined to have a long-term relationship. I hope it's true, because that is how many 20-something year old women are playing out their lives in this day and age. Many young women, especially those who go to college, see their … [Read more...]

Commitment Phobia: Part 2

Are present day couples who live together  destined for marriages that succeed or fail?  And why are parents and other important adults in young people's lives not speaking up more? I gave some thoughts on this subject in a previous blog, but because this is a complicated issue, here is some more food for thought. In the past, we had a relationship road map that went something like this: you … [Read more...]

Commitment Phobia???

At the risk of sounding like a grumpy old man, what's with all this living-together-before-you-marry experiment?  And why are young people waiting until their late 20's on into their late 30's before tying the knot? I should preface my thoughts by saying that my generation has a poor track record to stand on when it comes to successful marriages.  50% is nothing to shout about, for sure.  Maybe … [Read more...]


As I sit here in my new snoopy PJ bottoms given to me by good friends at Christmas, I'm not quite sure what to make of the fact that so many young people in their 20's and 30's aren't married yet. I've read research showing that people who wait to get married end up with happier and more successful marriages than people who marry "early", ie in their early 20's. But there is not much data yet or … [Read more...]