Thou Shalt Not SHOULD On Thyself

The holiday season is over, but did you take the opportunity to make it what you wanted? Meaning, now that january 1 has passed are you all pissy because you had to do this and go there and meet people you didn't really want to meet...ie did you end the  season dripping with resentment?! Take all the SHOULDS out of your life and make choices based on what is in the best interests of you and … [Read more...]

Why Kids Love Boxes More Than Presents

It's an old adage that little kids often end up playing more with the present boxes and wrapping paper than the presents themselves. And I think that is true for some very important reasons. First of all, never forget that all children are wired to learn, wired to be curious, and that learning anything in and of itself is a rewarding experience. Kids love to learn! And if they are engaged in play … [Read more...]

Kids Process Newtown Tragedy

I sat this week in a classroom of 5th grade students, a class I have worked with  with my wife many times since they started the 4th grade last school year. We have been helping them learn how to create a caring classroom community, and they are awesome! Monday, they had the Sandy Hook School shooting on their minds, so we opened up the floor for anyone to share how they were feeling about the … [Read more...]

Too Much Noise

A recent study in the journal Pediatrics links background noise from tv sets and negative outcomes in young children. The 4 hour a day average was found to be linked to lower sustained attention during playtime, lower quality parent-child relationships, and reduced performance on cognitive tests. No surprise here. Kids today are growing up in homes where both parents work, family meals together … [Read more...]

Dads and Daughters

 I just finished facilitating a 3 day retreat with 25 father-daughter pairs at a horse ranch in California. The girls were ages 7-9 years and one was cuter than the next. I was struck with what a special relationship dads have with girls at this age. Girls still look up to their daddies as heroes, and dads feel free to be affectionate and nurturing. But more interesting to me was how dads could … [Read more...]