Raising girl’s self-esteem and grit: Un-Words critical for girls to embrace

There are some crucial qualities girls need to develop self-esteem and grit. I described four of these in a previous blog, and today I am adding four more “un-words” to the list. Unaffected: The happiest girls I know are the ones who don’t care what other people think about them. They don’t give their power away by allowing disrespectful words or gossip to hurt their feelings, and they make … [Read more...]

The best present for kids this holiday: failure!

The best present your child can receive this holiday season is opportunity: to fail, to cooperate, and to slow down and do nothing. Forget the latest fads in clothes, toys, and technology. What every child needs are more opportunities for growth, grit, creativity, innovation, and daydreaming. If you are not prepared to be wrong and make mistakes, you will never create anything original. Ken … [Read more...]

Simon Sinek’s millennial paradox: He’s making matters worse!

Simon Sinek’s solution to the problem’s facing millennials in the workplace (Sinek video)is a repeat of what got them there in the first place. While I concur with Sinek about the challenges employers face in dealing with this young workforce, his placing the onus of responsibility on companies is misplaced and apt to make matters worse. Top 500 business owners and CEO’s I have spoken with all … [Read more...]

All I really need to know I learned by walking to school

Past generations had far more geographic freedom to roam, play, and create adventures, and the lessons kids accrued from these experiences were vital to their development into competent adults. With apologies to Robert Fulghum, all I really need to know I learned from experiencing unsupervised activities such as walking to school, spending all day playing in the woods, and crossing busy … [Read more...]

Where to find the best education? Not where you think  

I have written in recent blogs about why it doesn’t really matter where you go to college, and about how college is not for everyone. Let’s take it a step further today and look at this question: Where do you get the best education? My answer may surprise you, because I don’t think it’s found in school. One of my sons graduated from college, took on the challenge of teaching middle school … [Read more...]

Does it matter where you go to college? You might be surprised

The prevailing mantra being played out by many teens these days is, “Attend a top tier university or bust”. The perception is that where you go to college is the most important determinant for your future success. Charlotte, 18, recently told me that she’d consider it a failure if she weren’t admitted into her top choice, Yale. A whole cottage industry of college prep has sprung up around this … [Read more...]

Are your child’s dreams boundless or bounded?

Paul Coelho, best-selling author of The Alchemist, was an aspiring writer in his youth, much to his parent’s chagrin. He grew up in a very repressive dictatorship in Brazil, and his parents urged him to take the safe route by becoming an engineer. Bribes, threats, and psychiatrists all failed to force Paul to give up on his dream of being a writer. So his parents admitted him into a mental … [Read more...]

Would it be better for kids to be orphans?

What do the following people have in common: Jane Austin, Oliver Twist, Huck Finn and Tom Sawyer, Littler Orphan Annie, Mowgli, Peter Pan, Bilbo and Frodo, Dorothy Gale, Heidi, the Maze Runner boys, and Harry Potter? They are all orphans. Add to that list heroines in fairy tales who were motherless and you have many of the most famous fictional characters in history. Have you ever wondered why so … [Read more...]

The coming of the King and Messiah? In name only

I was shocked when I came across an article listing the fastest rising baby names of 2014. Major, King, and Messiah topped the boys list, but a little research uncovered even more absurdity. Another article listing the hottest names of 2015 introduced us to Alivia, Bryony, Indie, and Pandora. And of course who could forget the names Jerusalem, Sabbath, Bender, and my two personal favorites, Babble … [Read more...]

4 Presents for Your High School Graduate

High school graduation is just around the corner, but it’s not too late to start gifting your daughter with skills she will need to successfully launch out into the world. Here are four crucial ways to parent proactively for the long-term. 1. Space: As girls enter their junior and senior years of high school, they need more unsupervised time and space to make their own decisions, take care … [Read more...]