What’s most damaging to a girl’s self-esteem? A bad case of the ‘ers

There may be nothing more damaging to a girl’s self-esteem than their own thoughts. Middle school girls have a tough time controlling negative self-talk that courses through their brains, with the cost of them feeling discouraged, angry, depressed, anxious, and inadequate. This “stinking thinking” often takes on the form of what I like to call ‘ers: comparing yourself to others and wishing you … [Read more...]

Are your child’s dreams boundless or bounded?

Paul Coelho, best-selling author of The Alchemist, was an aspiring writer in his youth, much to his parent’s chagrin. He grew up in a very repressive dictatorship in Brazil, and his parents urged him to take the safe route by becoming an engineer. Bribes, threats, and psychiatrists all failed to force Paul to give up on his dream of being a writer. So his parents admitted him into a mental … [Read more...]

Gratitude

It was 9 PM on a wednesday evening as I walked with my wife Anne along a darkened wharf in Cabo, Mexico. A small, solitary  figure approached us, and to my surprise it was a cute little girl whose name we discovered was Jennifer. She was holding a box of trinkets, little animals, the kind sold in every shop and street corner in Mexico. Normally I politely beg off on paying any attention to street … [Read more...]

5 Crucial Gifts Your Children Have to Earn

In this day and age where family size has dwindled to 2 kids or less, parents have used their numbers advantage to pour more of their time and energy into their children. On the one hand, parents are spending more time with their kids, and that's a good change. On the other hand, parents are spending more time with their kids, and in many cases that has resulted in micromanaging and … [Read more...]

Look Backward Before Setting Resolutions

Before you blurt out some new resolutions for the new year, I'd suggest you 1st look backward for insight. If you failed in accomplishing goals for 2012, ask yourself "why?" What kept you from staying the course? What did you allow to be more important than your goals? When did you lose steam and give up, and why? If you don't learn from past mistakes, you are probably doomed to repeat them this … [Read more...]